Narcissists are looking for
partners to provide 3 SSs: Supply, Sex, Services.
Narcissists couldn’t care
less if you have a high level of empathy, a low, or none.
Empathy is a narcissistic
injury: advice, help, support, sharing, expressing an interest (induces
paranoia), and intimacy.
is a process of becoming via insight.
is the foundation of learning because it allows for comparison.
three are impossible without access to emotions.
you have access only to negative emotions you obtain cold empathy aimed at
subsuming others, making them like you, avoiding growth and learning.
emotions are inaccessible, narcissists attempt to grasp others and themselves
analytically. But such knowledge is like cramming for an exam: it is not
assimilated or integrated. It dooms to compulsive repetition like some demented
being or badly programmed machine in a loop. The same lessons are rediscovered
with every mortification (to learn the narcissist must first decompensate,
deactivate all his defenses).
to positive emotions guarantees full fledged empathy via insight and learning
and generates growth.
rejects help, advice because he knows that he is incorrigible.
discourages intimacy because of his abandonment anxiety ("if they see my
The narcissist reacts with
aggression to any presumption of intimacy and rejects cruelly love and caring when offered to
him (via sadistic frustration, withholding, rejection, and avoidance as well as
active abuse). Such presumption of love implies equality, commonness, and
knowability, challenges to his grandiosity.
Displays of emotions are
"super-empath" - and, now, "(super)nova empath" - are
self-aggrandizing labels used by covert narcissists online as they perpetuate
and leverage their newfound eternal pro victim status to garner attention (and,
To prove my point conclusively, join the cesspits that pass for empath support
forums and innocently dare to suggest that someone there is not an empath. Or
that she may have had a role to play in the relationship (starting with her
flawed mate selection).
You will instantly become the recipient of every form of abuse and malevolence
known to man (or woman), far more egregious than anything you have ever endured
from your narcissist. Nothing worse than the narcissistic or passive-aggression
of covert narcissists (er, sorry, empaths).
Men are prone to sexual
overperception: they misinterpret many female gestures and behaviors as
invitations to copulate then and there.
To be mere friends with a
woman is perceived by many men as a narcissistic injury. When a woman rejects a
man sexually or romantically and friendzones him, it implies that she has
judged him to be of inferior quality, defective, inadequate, lacking, and has
rejected him as as a potential lover, partner, spouse, and father.
Such injury can morph into narcissistic mortification if the woman offering
friendship (friendzoning) used to be, at one time, the man's date, spouse, or
intimate partner and had dumped him in favor of another man with whom she has
had sex (at times while cheating) or with whom she had later created a family.